Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a [Kindle Edition]
Author: Stan Tatkin - ISBN: B006HY0PH6 - Language: English - Format: PDF, EPUB
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"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.
Wired for Love is a complete insider's guide to understanding a partner's brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners' emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain's threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a ""warring brain"" mentality and toward a more cooperative ""loving brain"" understanding of the relationship. Based in the sound science of neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, this book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.
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- File Size: 865 KB
- Print Length: 201 pages
- Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1608820580
- Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (January 2, 2012)
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B006HY0PH6
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- Lending: Not Enabled
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #18,949 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
- #21 in Books > Self-Help > Relationships > Conflict Management
- #33 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Marriage
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My husband had a good laugh over my favorite line in the book: "When we recite our relationship vows, perhaps we should say, "I take you as my pain in the rear, with all your history and baggage, and I take responsibility for all prior injustices you endured at the hands of those I never knew, because you are now in my care.""
Wired for Love challenged my thinking about relationships. Reading it was an exercise in suspending judgement. Do I agree with his approach? Could I do it? Do I want to?
It's light on neuroscience for a nonscientific audience. Tatkin gives some specifics and then generalizes to simplify. The net is: We're wired for war, not love, and we need to help our partners minimize the "primates" (the parts wired for war) and grow the "ambassadors" (the parts wired for love).
He categories people in relationships into three fairly useful groups: Anchors (secure), Islands (avoidant) and Waves (ambivalent).
The thrust of the book is that you must make the relationship the most important thing in your life. All other relationships are secondary. For example, couples are advised to agree to tell each other anything going on with them before telling anyone else including a therapist. Your partner is your go-to, safe person, which reminded me of those attached-at-the-hip couples who do not operate as individuals that annoy me. Every word is "we." On the other hand, the idea is that you can't heal your relational childhood wounds without having a secure relationship that allows you to do this. But he says explicitly, this shouldn't be the goal of the relationship. "Acceptance, high regard, respect, devotion, support and safety" is the only way to help your partner with who they are, i.e., a partner operating as an island or wave).
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